Run like hell.

he is mentally invalid then or may be "emo"





stop my breathing and slit my throat, i must be emo

Be very honest and tell him that the association isn't working out for you. Tell him that you need room to breathe because he smothers you. Don't let hm manipulate you into staying with him, which is what he's doing by acting the technique he does when things don't go his way.



What he does after that isn't your issue, unless he threatens to harm you. You aren't responsible for his mental illness.

Get away from him ASAP. He is gonna do what he is gonna do regardless and is using his mental issues to try to keep you around. You should not be held hostage by a mental patient.If possible, when you leave him, let someone in his family know and let them be involved with him.

you need to think about ur own personal safety above his. if he is willing to hurt himself what will stop him from hurting you

then if he kills himself he was going to do it anyways

you are arrogant to think you got the power of life or death on him,

if anything you're in danger

i am sure you have seen the news where a despondent guy who has just got dumped kills the ex and then ( predictablely ) himself

the "i am going to kill my self if you leave me" is a control issue and it serves to keep you in check and keep you there like it's now, he is a control freak

It's an emotional blackmail he is doing to you. Sometimes these things just obtain worse instead of better. Whatever you decide, try to do it nice, calm, ya know with out all the dramatics. That technique if he tries to hurt himself, (and that could happen) you will not have guilt over the technique you behaved when breaking up with him.



In all honesty, he sounds like a handful and not much fun.... I would break up sooner than later too. It may make it easier on both of you, wonderful luck.

Look after yourself. You are only responsible for yourself, not him. The wisest thing for you to do is leave this man as soon as possible and obtain on with your own life.

I would talk to a professional and observe the best technique to handle this. It sounds grave and he sounds like he's really in main emotional pain. Mean is not the technique to go, but getting advice will be wise. Maybe not from yahoo answers though!

Remember that you're not responsible for his actions, only for yours. It's entirely up to him whether he responds to your night out with the girls by curling up with a nice book or by slicing himself up with a razor, yaknow?



Encourage him to obtain professional aid for his depression and insecurities. You can say it sweetly, like "I'm worried about you ..." not "for heaven's sake, go observe a shrink!"



Don't let him blackmail you into spending every bit of your spare time with him. John Lenon and Yoko Ono were an exception, not the rule. You know common couples do some things separately, right? So don't feel bad about behaving like a common human being. Being with someone who's depressed can be really emotionally draining, and you beginning to really need breaks to recharge. Plus, by letting him obtain what he wants (more recognition from you) by hurting himself and breaking things, it may actually reinforce his dysfunctional behaviour.



If you really believe that he might seriously harm himself if you break up and you want to break up with him, I would suggest warning a family member or someone else close to him ahead of time, so they can watch out for him. Try to tell him why you think it's not working as kindly as you could even though you know he's going to take it badly.

Well I just read all the replies that you got from several people and I think the bulk of them made a wonderful effort according to their technique of thinking.



Ok if the guy is too clingy / needy / depressed / demanding / possesive then it means that he never ever got that recognition and importance that he always craved for, some how you came in his path and from you he got all that so now he feels threaten that he shouldnt let you go or else he will endup in the dump of insults and dissapointments.



First you got to think that what made you to let him penetrate in your life? and secondly you have to decide if you're OK to have this guy in your life for a long period of time or not?



If you want to keep him around then you got to have the upper hand so he wont ruine your life for his wonderful and you have to put lots of terms and conditions in front of him so by that he will also think and feel that you're also a human being not some toy or a pet animal. Got to have a strong balance in such relationship.



And maybe you havent explored the real him? maybe he is too cool and too awsome but a lot things have blocked his cool image. If you're willing then try to learn him instead of just being with him.



But IF THE GUY IS REALLY SICK and you're willing to end this association then the best option is to slowly push him away, like become more social, take him to parties and introduce him to lots of people and at the same time push him to be more cool and more classy type so he can feel that if he lets you go then he will obtain someone else who would be no less then you. Like you could make him believe that he is too wonderful and can have any body - in a technique you will rebuilding his broken self image.



Also obtain yourself more busy like join social groups or arts classes etc. So he will obtain used to not having you around him so much.



You know in such matters you shouldnt be hasty because your wrong move can result in something bad.



I dont know if he is playing with you or if he is really that ill but dont be hasty, be sensible and in next couple of weeks you will observe him walking away from you (hopefully) as well as you will improve yourself by joining classes, social groups or sports.



So according to my point of view you got two WIN WIN situations but you have to decide which one you want.



Mustafa

I guess we all have a point in our lives when we have to make a hard decision such as the one you're faced with. This fellow sounds like he is quite young, a little immature and possibly very insecure? Are you by chance his 1st girlfriend?

It seems like he's trying to figure out what buttons to push in order to gain your attention/affection. Maybe he already has.

It might be hard to break things off and go back to a platonic association again (for him anyways). Personally I feel that the longer you stay together, will wind up encouraging him in a way. In doing this you would be sending him mixed signals unintentionally.

If you really do want to break up with him, I think you're going to have to have a mature sit down discussion with him.

I know it's going to be tough, but it would be harder the longer you prolong the relationship. It will be nice if you can still remain friends, but sometimes this isn't possible, though from what I've heard you can probably handle it. I doubt that he could though.

This is only my opinion, as I don't know your entire situation, and based my answer solely on the information within your question.



Hope it all works out for both of you!

Endorphins from sexual activity will eradicate the unbalanced chemicals causing depression by canceling them chemically. The upper brains make the depression chemicals when erasing bad expectations for love and sex. He makes new unbalanced chemicals and is depressed when he is in love with you. The cycle is unending . Soon the medulla would be able to reroute the messages from the upper brain and he will become psychotic and slowly drift from reality and safety. His language will deteriorate slowly until you cant aid him with words. You best chose the part you like the best ...safety or the hot feelings he gives you.